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TRAUMA BOND OR ATTACHMENT BOND?
Trauma bond, attachment trauma, healthy relationships
TRAUMA BOND OR ATTACHMENT BOND?
In this video I explain a very key factor in healthy relating and where trauma bonds really come from and how to heal.
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MISUNDERSTOOD PODCAST EPISODE #4 - Interview with Actress Teresa Palmer
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#podcast #midunderstood #authenticity MISUNDERSTOOD PODCAST EPISODE #4 - Interview with Actress Teresa Palmer MISUNDERSTOOD - Guiding highly sensitive people through an emotional dark age. Host: Candace van Dell If you have not yet tuned into my brand new podcast, you can catch us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere you listen to your podcasts. Or go to my website at www.candacevandell.com and th...
Love Bond & Discard 101 (Part 1)
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Love Bond & Discard 101 (Part 1)
Stop Creating Your Own Pain
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Stop Creating Your Own Pain
Trauma Bonded to your Ego?
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Trauma Bonded to your Ego?
The Narcissistic Collapse
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The Narcissistic Collapse
Is this a Spiritual Awakening or Spiritual Bypass?
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Is this a Spiritual Awakening or Spiritual Bypass?
EMOTIONAL NEGLECT causes self blame & doubt
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EMOTIONAL NEGLECT causes self blame & doubt
The Scapegoat's Existential Crisis
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The Scapegoat's Existential Crisis
HEALING to fit back into the toxic family?
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HEALING to fit back into the toxic family?
Take off the TRAUMA GOGGLES
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Take off the TRAUMA GOGGLES
3 Ways to unlock your soul purpose
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3 Ways to unlock your soul purpose
YOUR OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS ARE CAUSED BY ABANDONMENT WOUNDS
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YOUR OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS ARE CAUSED BY ABANDONMENT WOUNDS
The Unhealed Empath & Discard
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The Unhealed Empath & Discard
How to find your purpose: Ego Career vs Divine Calling
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How to find your purpose: Ego Career vs Divine Calling
How To Jump Timelines
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How To Jump Timelines
FEEL DIFFERENT? You are ahead of your time!
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FEEL DIFFERENT? You are ahead of your time!
Are Narcissists Created?
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Are Narcissists Created?
Healing the Brain after Trauma
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Healing the Brain after Trauma
AUTHENTIC SELF - How To Reconnect
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AUTHENTIC SELF - How To Reconnect
The SPIRITUAL PERSPECTIVE on EATING DISORDERS
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The SPIRITUAL PERSPECTIVE on EATING DISORDERS
How the Narcissist Obliterates your sense of SELF
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How the Narcissist Obliterates your sense of SELF
SPIRITUAL DEFINITION of your Diagnosis
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SPIRITUAL DEFINITION of your Diagnosis
Siblings in a Narcissistic Dynamic
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Siblings in a Narcissistic Dynamic
Symptoms of Trauma or Disorder?
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Symptoms of Trauma or Disorder?
MY AUTHENTIC SELF GETS ME REJECTED
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MY AUTHENTIC SELF GETS ME REJECTED
WHY Highly Sensitive People turn off feeling
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WHY Highly Sensitive People turn off feeling
The Missing Piece to your Awakening
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The Missing Piece to your Awakening
The Narcissist Is Your SAVIOR
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The Narcissist Is Your SAVIOR
MAD AT GOD?
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MAD AT GOD?

Комментарии

  • @esperanzashoe9266
    @esperanzashoe9266 День назад

    How can I follow you?

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell День назад

      @@esperanzashoe9266 push subscribe and go to Instagram @candacevandell

  • @LianGold
    @LianGold 2 дня назад

    As an HSP I've sensed that you've prepared this script and read from it :) and it's cute! It means you care and don't want to miss any details or information! :)

  • @wmelssenvogel
    @wmelssenvogel 2 дня назад

    All I can say is WOWOWOW! This is amazing info, thank you!

  • @rimjhimsingh3656
    @rimjhimsingh3656 3 дня назад

    Thanks Candace❤

  • @nothinnng
    @nothinnng 3 дня назад

    I just found this channel and i feel like I’m talking to my sister

  • @kentvela
    @kentvela 4 дня назад

    I know this is a necro response.... Thank you. This helped me understand my daughter. Much love... Again Thanks.

  • @crazycraig7635
    @crazycraig7635 6 дней назад

    I don't know why it really doesn't matter what someone tells me I always seem to feel abandoned although in most cases I haven't been given any explanation for the abandonment I am willing to admit that in most cases they had tried to leave me several times prior to the abandonment but because of my fears of abandonment and inadequacy I would go over the top to convince them to stay now that I am aware of my lack of self worth or self love I have come to realize that I have very rarely been able to be myself and I have been over clingy and haven't been able to even know who my self really is I would typically become interested in anything anyone I was with was interested and although it has opened me up to many things I probably would have never been interested I can see where it could feel invasive or maybe even be misinterpreted as some type of control issue which is something that I can honestly say I have never been guilty of, I don't know what to do with myself I definitely don't feel like making anyone else do or feel anything although I have learned that my fears have caused people to feel like they are being controlled only because my most recent partner was in therapy and she was pretty good at communicating what she was feeling even though I had a lot of difficulty communicating why I was having the feelings I was having, she had left me probably 7 times in the past 5 years and she had always come back, this time she asked for her own space so she could focus on herself and because of my fears I agreed and helped her get her own place and then helped her move and shortly after she asked me for no contact because she said she still wasn't able to focus on herself and of course I agreed because I lack the strength to bring my needs into account and now several months since I have seen or heard anything from her I'm still trying to figure out if she's left me permanently or if she is just focusing on healing herself which I guess has been helpful because I have been focusing on healing and learning about what is causing me to be the person I am in relationships.

  • @moonstar4806
    @moonstar4806 6 дней назад

    I love watching your videos. It helps me understand alot of things. Because yes we need to speak up. Since childhood I have been very introvert and can't express how feel to others, which is why people take advantage of me. I loved someone dearly and even I still have feelings for her but it's foolish that she doesn't feels same way and I can't let my mind go off. I try to meditate and would to hear from you. Take care ♥️

  • @cindybriden372
    @cindybriden372 6 дней назад

    For me, it was always my fault for my sisters behavior.

  • @stuartk2244
    @stuartk2244 6 дней назад

    Truly beautiful ❤❤

  • @mariaornelas4939
    @mariaornelas4939 7 дней назад

    My beloved ones choose to make me a target & a scapegoat ,,but I'm not anymore I isolated from them all . I'm not anymore a punching bag. ,,& i send them love & light..❤❤❤

  • @krauler
    @krauler 7 дней назад

    About that “my authentic self” stuff, I have no idea who that is.

  • @TFrancis-ev1lo
    @TFrancis-ev1lo 7 дней назад

    I want space between us

  • @TFrancis-ev1lo
    @TFrancis-ev1lo 7 дней назад

    Hacking into my phone doing dumb shit

  • @TFrancis-ev1lo
    @TFrancis-ev1lo 7 дней назад

    With some we are not close

  • @yng9541
    @yng9541 7 дней назад

    Luv this video 🪴

  • @Holy_Evil
    @Holy_Evil 8 дней назад

    Look what Templar vampire does with fist (A reproductions) People do without (D reproductions)..So why do you want help people as their ability is just superficial Matrix?

  • @nuez23747
    @nuez23747 8 дней назад

    I was very lose and sex addicted I thought I could keep men this way. I don´t think coaching is enough, I went 8 years to COda and Slaa: you need to develop curiosity and perseverence to put it in place often. I overcame both addictions

  • @Stolenmannequin
    @Stolenmannequin 9 дней назад

    Always

  • @heyditenekeci5734
    @heyditenekeci5734 10 дней назад

    I am so thankful and grateful to know you even only through social media. This was video the wisdom of loving the parts you don't wanna meet again, the old parts of you made my self-love leverage higher 🥰 and feeling more whole day by day with this great atitude. Anything and everything you share in instagram and here helps me, supports me and makes me heal a lot. Thank you and love you. Keep shining and being REAL Y💕 🙌🏻💖🙌🏻

  • @user-ug8tg7in5g
    @user-ug8tg7in5g 10 дней назад

    I think you might be saving my life.

  • @goofydufus
    @goofydufus 11 дней назад

    It's so refreshing seeing this video. I am an HSP male and this gives me hope. It's cruel how men and boys are socialized to stuff and hide their emotions and their very humanity.

  • @OsvaldoBlas-wf1be
    @OsvaldoBlas-wf1be 13 дней назад

    Toxic too bad, im moving over have a wonderful life! But not with me! Family or friends 🧡

  • @Who_hack_here
    @Who_hack_here 13 дней назад

    Neither. I worked hard to get out of sicko hole system and bad people keep put me in while endure suffer with unique disorder which made my journey 1000% greater toughest Time to end mentally game you all put me through. Game is over

  • @gud3742
    @gud3742 13 дней назад

    The surest way to piss off a human is to invalidate their suffering. Imagine telling someone that their rape is imaginary. Imagine telling someone that their trauma is imaginary. Imagine telling a parent that the death of their child is imaginary. Imagine telling an African-American that slavery is imaginary. Oh the horror, Leo! But please, stop playing stupid. As upsetting as that may be, it does not change the fact that those things are imaginary. “But Leo! How dare you tell me that my suffering is just some game I play!” Yeah, well… you play some very serious games. But just because a statement pisses you off does not make it untrue. Just because something hurts like a bitch does not make it true. And just because you’re in a nightmare does not make it real. This isn’t bad news, this is actually a doorway to salvation. All suffering is imaginary. This is completely unacceptable to the finite self. Because the finite self’s modus operandi is the avoidance of suffering. Which means it has to take suffering as real. To invalidate the self’s suffering is to invalidate the self’s material reality. The realness of suffering is baked into the very core of how self constructs reality. This is not merely a psychological thing, it’s a metaphysical thing. The point of spirituality is that at high enough levels of consciousness it allows you to see through the illusion of suffering and trauma. This is salvation. But don’t go trying to tell a human that her suffering is imaginary. That will only make humans hate you. Because the finite self is incapable of loving Truth. If you could love Truth, you wouldn’t suffer in the first place. The finite self would rather live in a self-constructed hell than surrender itself to Truth. Notice this about yourself: you are a suffering and drama addict, and you refuse to give it up because it is completely intertwined with your definitions of reality. It is this way because suffering keeps you alive. If you didn’t care about suffering, you would not survive as a finite human self for very long. Suffering is the greatest illusion. All God has to do to fool someone into believing that something is real is make it extremely painful. Then 99.9999% of people will never question it. Humans are too biased and immature to accept this. They want their suffering validated. They want their illusions validated. This is the human condition. Humans are puppets pulled by emotional strings and they cry, kick, and scream like children at the suggestion of cutting those strings. Waking up requires growing up. Isn’t it amazing how the greatest news you could possibly be told - that all your suffering and trauma is imaginary - is received by most humans as something horrible and insulting? Truth is way more serious than people are ready to handle, so usually its best to keep it to yourself. When someone comes crying to you about their misery, you give them comfort, not Truth. An important lesson in your spiritual journey will be learning to meet people where they’re at, not where you’re at. I’ve made this mistake many times.

  • @crystaleggen2452
    @crystaleggen2452 14 дней назад

    I was an outspoken kid no filter. Lol

  • @cassiezhang7133
    @cassiezhang7133 15 дней назад

    my mom didn’t give me much love … she said when i was little baby she just put me in the bed let me play with myself,she said I’m the best baby, never cry… but sounds very sad …😢after six, i was raised in my grandparents house… ( sorry my English)

  • @seekerseal1443
    @seekerseal1443 16 дней назад

    I feel this way with my older sister. She's a mother figure to me, though.

  • @sinoqeqe
    @sinoqeqe 16 дней назад

    "Their wounds are not your identity. Take their potential and make that your identity" Thank you so much for this

  • @LaurenGNolan
    @LaurenGNolan 16 дней назад

    This is a really powerful message!

  • @RWF6390
    @RWF6390 17 дней назад

    Hey! Thanks for what you do!

  • @mattycsizmadi1669
    @mattycsizmadi1669 17 дней назад

    I have waited All day to watch your video. It is going to be one of the most Harmonizing, Honest, Peaceful moments of this day.... Yesss. And I hope you're have a Fantastic Powerful day... That Grace's is always fluttering around you, so I know that's good 😊. Thank you, Candace. I will get back to Social's soon 🎉☮️.

  • @sallysierra2726
    @sallysierra2726 17 дней назад

    Wow, this describes my relationship with my mother who raised me my father (whom I met at 47 ND QUICKLY left) perfectly!😢

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles 17 дней назад

    Fab to see you here. <3

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles 17 дней назад

    Thank you Candace! <3

  • @douglasmclean3723
    @douglasmclean3723 17 дней назад

    excellentI like this. A rebirther once said to me you are not your father harsh and hostile but i am aware i became like him and like my mother cold and indifferent so i went into the people pleasing business to get acceptance and approval for years and it drained the life out of me; then i made a rod for my own back and went into reflexolgy and that is where i absorbed more negative energy with out people saying anything. if the real me was poetry and pottery and haven't done that for long time well it was just me and the words me and the clay there was no one there well done good job

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles 17 дней назад

    Candace in da house woo!🥰

  • @momione11
    @momione11 17 дней назад

    Spot on.

  • @lynnvandyke5308
    @lynnvandyke5308 17 дней назад

    i love all of this my child hood felt to tramatic for me i have been on my healing journey along time however still need support truth room soubds great for me

  • @user-cd2jl4is4k
    @user-cd2jl4is4k 17 дней назад

    Thanks ❤

  • @uli_xi2386
    @uli_xi2386 17 дней назад

    Totally resonated with this

  • @boxingswarriorspirit
    @boxingswarriorspirit 18 дней назад

    i was mirrored by a weirdo narcissist to the point of him starting to dress like me. i did the exact opposite of what she is saying. i did not fall in love with it. i found it irritating, annoying, and straight up weird. so i went no contact and this was before i knew more in depth about narcissism. it was just my intuition and my ability to pick up on things to allowed me to realize this dude is sick and something is not right with him.

  • @Holy_Evil
    @Holy_Evil 18 дней назад

    Disonward cause you're being natural

  • @josesantiago5150
    @josesantiago5150 19 дней назад

    How do I get to use my powers at will

  • @a.b.creator
    @a.b.creator 19 дней назад

    3:09 my belief also is that it also is a spiritual cause for things like ulcerative colitis and related conditions...because we hold those horrible feelings there and they manifest physically.

  • @Krissy_K888
    @Krissy_K888 20 дней назад

    The truly amazing part is that we see them as the most amazing person ever, but that amazing person was us all along. We question ourselves and our worth but THAT is actually how people see us. Often, that is why they mistreat you, to knock you down a peg. That is a mind F and a half...

  • @ih8utbe
    @ih8utbe 21 день назад

    I am a highly sensitive male. Proud of it.

  • @Khush-iy3tv
    @Khush-iy3tv 21 день назад

    I lost all of that joy and aura and now I get jealous of whoever has had it better, privileged and is happy cuz. Why. Just why.

  • @user-cx2ho9hg2r
    @user-cx2ho9hg2r 22 дня назад

    Wow. I feel finally seen and understood.

  • @SarandipityStudios
    @SarandipityStudios 24 дня назад

    Wow ❤ needed to hear this 😊✨